Tolerance !

 So Pastor Richard was a very calm and composed young man. 

He grew up in the streets of Lagos , born to a senior Pastor of one of the leading Churches in Nigeria , he had his secondary education at Kings College in the early 90s and proceeded to Imo State University for 

his University education , that was where he met the Love of his Life , Anita. 

Anita was a beautiful and smart Church Loving girl , from an equally religious home , situation danced around and they got married and lived happily though the 'ever after' never quite set in .

After a few months , the effect of cohabitation set in and they began to argue over everything , this was sickening for both parties as they both began to 'pray' about their situation .

Pastor Richard who was a pastor and doubled as a bank MD would leave the house the moment any argument sets in , in his opinion , you have to tolerate in marriage and when the woman starts nagging you leave the space for her , this was effective as it saved the day but did it solve any real issue ? 

The Bank was being liquidated and Pastor Richard unfortunately lost his job , their 3 kids were in school and their rent was due , Pastor Richard was numb , he had dedicated so much to the job and to the house of God , why would God fail him ? He needed some peace so he ran off to the Church where he cried , wailed , quaried and lost a touch of time , the next time he got a hold of himself it was already 11pm , he had to rush home to his family .

He had barely stepped a footing in the house when his beautiful wife started in familiar fashion , her voice skyrocketted as she accused him of spending time with another woman , he was not in the mood for nagging and it was very late into the night so he could not leave the space to the Church as he would usually , so he tried to make his way to his bedroom but beautiful Anita gripped him by his shirt and chorused "you have another woman , you would kill me today if you don't tell me who she is" I mean , she had called severally like a nice wife would but he didn't take his calls because he left his phone in the car while he was blaming God for his misfortune , she was quick to conclude and in a split second gentle Pastor Richard rained slaps and Anthony Joshua-like punches on his wife , he beat her to pulp , he transferred the aggression to her , that day was not his day to tolerate as a Christian man should , in her defense , she ran to the center table , picked up a knife and stabbed him around his body repeatedly , he died instantly and then she came back to reality ! 

Today Pastor Richard is dead and Anita is still on trial , the judge earlier ruled that it was self defense BUT having seen the repeated stabs in different parts of Pastor Richards body , the family is appealing the case as one of an intentional act , so as it stands , the 3 innocent children are fatherless and stand a risk of loosing their mother to the law .

How would they live with their mother knowing she killed their father ? 

How would she forgive herself ? 

Dear People , TOLERANCE in marriage or partnerships should NOT be the first step , it should be the LAST resort , don't attempt to keep peace and suffer a greater loss on the long run , sit down like adults and trash your issues , disagree BUT do not Ignore Red flags , there is no spiritual solution to a psychological problem , I leave you to ponder BUT did I mention it's all Fiction ? Yes it never happened but it's a great possibility , avoid it . 

I am Kovu.