When a man says he wants PEACE OF MIND?

When a man says he wants PEACE OF MIND.

In recent times, there has been a backlash against men when they say they look out for a woman who can offer "peace of mind" to settle with.

Modern women more often than not mistake this to mean a man needs a slave or a voiceless woman, this is very far from the truth.

There are men, and there are boys in men's clothing.

Men are the responsible ones, who would treat you right, Love you, provide for you, not cheat on you, not abuse you, and allow you to have a voice but still demand peace and respect.

Boys in men's clothing are men who are of age, irresponsible, would abuse you, manipulate you, not meet their responsibilities, cheat on you, and still expect you to be quiet.

You see, when these 2 kinds of men say they want a woman who would give them "peace of mind", they don't mean the same thing. 

The problem is, many modern women have mistaken all men to be boys in men's clothing, so they crouch upon hearing a man say he'd settle where he finds peace.

I do not blame women for thinking this way, some men have abused the softness, and femininity of women over time, so it has instilled this insecurity in women. Some women grew up seeing their mothers abused and extremely maltreated, some heard stories, and some watched movies, so there is a loud fear factor and insecurity around them.

But, above lies an emotional excuse, not necessarily a justification. 

Some men would allow you to flourish, would respect you, would never abuse you or cheat on you, and these men deserve "peace of mind", so do not take your insecurities to such men, it would turn them off.

It's just like a woman saying she wants a man who would be responsible for her, provide and protect the family. Some women use men who are this responsible, does it mean all women should be blacklisted as users? No!

The point is, be with men who Love you, respect you, allow you to flourish and would be faithful to you, but know when you're crossing the line due to your insecurities.

At the end of the day, everyone wants peace of mind, even women, so there's nothing to be threatened about when you hear this.

Amaka, stop following boys in men's clothing, and you'd see clearly.

I am Kovu.